Toilet Training
The right time to toilet train your toddler
On average, most toddlers begin learn to use a potty by around their second birthday, but as with everything in children's development, each toddler is different. Up to the age of 20 months, toddlers' bladders empty often, making it difficult for them to master holding on for the loo.
Follow your toddlers lead - when they're ready to use a potty they'll let you know. Don't worry if a friend proudly states, "Oh, my daughter was out of nappies by now" or your grandmother recalls teaching your mother to use the potty when she was only a few months old.
Some parents find it easier to toilet train their toddler in summer, when toddlers can run around with fewer clothes on. If this isn't the right time for your toddler, however, don't worry. Always go with your toddler's readiness.
It can take longer for boys to toilet train, especially as they also have to master weeing while standing up. Most boys learn sitting down first. Dads or older brothers can then show how to do it the other way.
Is your child ready to toilet train?
Your toddler may be ready to start trying to use the toilet if they:
- stay dry for a couple of hours each day
- take an interest when you, your partner or older siblings go to the toilet
- has bowel movements at regular times of the day, eg after breakfast
- can demonstrate when a bowel movement is taking place, by squatting or making a grunting sound for example
- let you know they want to be changed when their nappy is full
When to wait to toilet train
It's usually best not to start toilet training your toddler during times of stress, such as:
- the arrival of a newborn baby in the family
- starting a new childcare arrangement
- moving from a cot to a bed
- moving house
- family relationship problems
- when a family member is ill
toilet training pointers
Be positive and upbeat - show the change as something exciting.
Give lots of praise whenever your toddler manages to do a poo on the potty. Stress how grown up and clever he is.
Don't rush things. Sometimes if you start teaching later, it takes less time. Toddlers over two and a half may learn almost overnight.
Expect setbacks. Learning to use the toilet is just like other skills your toddler learns - you expect a lot of falls before walking comes easily.
Give your toddler clothes that can be pulled down or up easily. You may also want him to wear training nappies (pull ups) at first, to cope with those inevitable accidents.
Never force your child to sit on the potty. This will only upset him and won't make the process any faster.
Some toddlers enjoy picking out their own potty and toilet seat.
Many toddlers are afraid of the sound of the toilet flushing or don't like to see the poo being flushed away. If your child feels like this, just wait until he has run off to play, then flush.
It always takes longer for a child to learn to stay dry at night. When he starts having the occasional dry nappy in the morning, it's a good sign that the time is right to try going without a nappy.
Do your best not to be angry with your child if he has an accident. Just say, cheerfully, "Never mind, you'll get there next time. Let's get you some dry pants."
Remember to get your toddler to wash their hands afterwards, so that using the potty or toilet is associated with handwashing from the word go.
